In
the Indian subcontinent, it is a tradition to hold a Godh Bharai
ceremony in Hindus, basically, on two occasions. One is before a wedding
and the second is in the seventh month of pregnancy of an expectant
lady. In the first case, the Goad Bharai marks the ceremony in which the
family members of the groom officially accept a girl as the daughter of
their family. The entire ceremony is conducted by females and male
members are not allowed to attend it. The girl is made to dress up in a
heavy sari, but without any ornaments.
Thereafter, she is asked to sit on a chair with the sari's 'palla' in
her godh (lap). The mother, sister and sisters-in-law of the groom dress
up the girl, with jewelry, bangles, cosmetics, etc. Then, along with all
the other female members of the family, they apply tikka on her forehead
and place gifts in the godh (lap) of the would-be-bride, on top of her
palla. While giving gifts, they bless her, asking God to bless the
couple with a long and happy married life. After receiving the gifts,
the girl touches the feet of all the elder females. They also feed her
sweets.
In the second case, the Godh Bharai ceremony is held in India, in the
seventh month of pregnancy of an expectant female. This ceremony takes
place at the matrimonial home of the woman. Just like the previous
ceremony, this one is also held only the female family members of the
would-be-father and the would-be-mother. The expectant woman is dressed
just like a bride, complete with the jewelry, make up and everything.
Thereafter, she is asked to sit on a chair/sofa and place her 'palla' in
her godh (lap).
Now, starts the Godh Bharai ceremony. All the women attending the
ceremony place a gift they have, for the would-be-mother or her baby, in
her godh and then apply a tika on her forehead. After that, they feed
her sweets & khichri, of rice, moong daal and til, cooked in desi
ghee. The mother of the woman also gives her daughter, gifts for her
husband as well as in-laws. Then, they whisper something auspicious in
her ear - usually their blessings. She thanks all the elder woman by
touching their feet. Last but not the least; they celebrate the
impending arrival of the child by singing and dancing.
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