Parents may consider adoption because they can't
have their own biological children due to infertility in one or both of
the parents or because they have crossed the age of bearing children and
yet want more children. There are people who are still active, their
children have grown up and moved out of the house and they want to raise
more children though they can't have their own. Others may wish to
adopt an abandoned or orphan child so that they can give him or her
chance and opportunity to have good life and a loving family.
Still others might want to adopt a special child who is mentally or
physically handicapped or have special needs because they know that they
can afford the time and money needed to such a child and give him or her
better life. The reasons for adoption may be unique to the adoptive
parents and so are there adoption experiences. Adopting a baby is a
lifetime decision that can change you forever. There are thousands of
questions and concerns erupting every moment in the minds of prospective
adoptive parents such as whether the child will love them as his or her
'own' parents or vice versa.
Before adoption, all adoptive parents should make sure that they are
well prepared to embrace adoption and love the protected child without
being prejudiced against his or whereabouts and birth family and
conditions. Once the decision is made, you may like to decide whether
you want domestic or international adoption, open or closed adoption and
whether you will be able to help your child survive other's
questions and comments, especially in transracial adoptions.
Research well about the kind of adoptions cost involved and how to pay
for them. This includes the flights, stay, court fees, registration fee
and getting all the documents done among many other things. Know well
about the laws and issues related to adoption, especially in
international adoptions. Be sure to hire a lawyer who specializes in
adoption so that you do not have to face hassles later. Make sure that
everything is legally done and never go for shortcuts. Besides the
normal physical and emotional strain of rearing a child, adoption has
its own emotional turmoil that may include your social life. While
making decision to be adoptive parents, the individuals (in case of
single parents) or the couples should be aware of this additional stress
and be ready to face it. Adoptive parenting is not a breeze so keep your
expectations realistic. It is not necessary that the child you get is
cheerful and will be friendly from the first moment. It may take some
time for the child to assimilate with his new living conditions, new
environment, new parents and new family. Last but not the least; be
prepared to tell your child's story again and again to thousands of
people and the child and then again once more.
Adoptive & Normal Parenting
Parenting and adoption are complicated topics in themselves. The never-ending debate about the differences in parenting biological children versus parenting adopted children is unending and remains unresolved till date. Some of the typical questions and challenges that adoptive parents have to face are locating or finding information about birth parents, siblings and other relatives of the child, also finding the medical, psychiatric or learning history of the children to help them deal with specific problems.
Adopting Older Children
Children over the age of two are considered as 'older children' for adoption purposes. Adoptive parents in the process of adopting or have recently adopted an older child may want to know more about how to help the child adjust to the new surroundings, new family and new parents. Adoptive parents must remember not to over stimulate their child and give them time to be comfortable with their immediate family
Post Adoption Depression Syndrome
As pre-adoptive parents, many couples deal with infertility and the long stretched-out process of adoption. Once the process gets completed, they finally reap the sweet fruit of their patience and get their baby and suddenly become parents to a tiny, squirming, little one. They suddenly feel complete
Post-Adoption Depression (PAD)
Post Adoption Depression Syndrome or PAD is common in many adoptive couples. There can be several reasons behind this depression that are not all baseless or temporary but that does not mean that adoptive parents have taken a wrong decision about going through an adoption. Even biological parents face a similar phase as post partum depression.
Natural & Adoptive
Siblings
The term 'siblings' refer to brothers and sisters. Parents, who have their biological child and want to adopt a second child, need to first prepare their own child for adoption much in advance. It is very important to prepare the older child for the arrival of a new child, in order to fight feelings of jealousy, sibling rivalry and loneliness. Sibling rivalry is a part of growing up.
Adoptive Parents & Adoptees
There can be vast differences between adoptive parents and adoptees. Adopted children may differ in looks - skin, eye and hair color, have unique features, personalities and temperaments and built. They may come from a different country and have different sexual preferences when they grow up. They may have special health or mental problems or genetic diseases than their parents.
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